I'm going to try and put all the information on so I don't sound like a harsh person.
I have this friend, who is VERY obese, she is roughly 300lbs and 17 years old, she is 5'11". She complains pretty much constantly, and I understand why. She says she wants to lose weight, and she wants to be active, but basically everytime I ask her to come play basketball, or go walk down by the river, or just to throw a ball around with some friends, and she says no she doesn't "feel" like it.
She's very lazy, and I know that sounds mean, but all she does is sit inside and watch t.v., I've heard her make comments that she buys not only one pop but TWO for morning classes at school, she eats alot of junk food and doesn't do much of anything.
It's driving me crazy, because she complains all the time, what can I do to help her, or to get her to shut up and stop complaining, Because it is literally driving me crazy, I have known her since I was in diapers so letting the friendship go is a no.
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it's really hard for her at her weight to even feel motivated to excersise or even get off the couch, i think the best thing is to start out simple, just taking a brisk walk for like 15-20 mintues, and then gradually making it a 1 hour walk, and then from there a 15-20 jog, and then 1 hour jog, and so on...
You should buy her Dance Dance Revolution because it's fun and I lost 20 pounds
your the one that rude, just leave her alone.
I would sit down and have a serious talk with her, let her know that her health is a concern to you, and you would like to help her, but that it is driving you crazy to listen to the complaining. It seems your friend may need an intervention or counselling of some kind. Serious cases of obessity is usually caused by some other underlying problem. Be truthful, and honest with her, there is not better kindness than that. at that weight at that age there could be serious health problems for her as well as a shortened life span. get some literature together and discuss this with her, but do so in a loving way so that she doesnt take offense.i wish you luck
It is so nice that you care. I think that if she didn't have the weight on her, she could be active outside, but she does, so she just sits and eats all day out of boredom. I think if you were to join a gym with her, that she would take advantage of the oppurtunity. Nobody ever wants to go alone. With a heavy person, they have a lot more to tote around when they walk, it takes more to exercise for them. Bless you for loving your friend so much and wanting to help her. I know with a sincere friend like you, she could get on the right track and start losing that weight! As for the junk food, she can tote waters to classes in a cooler with crystal light, they are good- no sugar, and take salads and fruits for lunch, healthy foods are more filling than the junk you find in the school vending machines. You can have fun together creating healthy but yummy foods.
I just bought The Walk off the Pounds Dvd, and have been doing 1, 2, 3, or 4 miles each day (usually do 2). Each mile takes about 15 minutes.
It's low impact, simple, fun, and it could really be a good start for her to get active and feel better about herself.
I found my DVD at Kmart for $20.00.
Your friend has a condition that you can do nothing about. it is one of self-esteem... food is comfort to her, and about anything else comes second.
She needs to be in the hands of psychiatrist or a psychologist, sweetie, to find out why she so hates herself that she has allowed herself this addiction to food. I'm I'm kinda asking just where are this girl's parents. that they would allow these eating habits to develop... She's likely been fat all of her life, and where indeed were her parents that they keep junk in the house for her to eat? Are they fat too?????
But she has about sealed her fate as an adult to remain obese unless her parents get her some help. And being fat has physical problems too. big time. In time she will so erode the joints in her knees and hips at to become disabled. She will get diabetes, and she will as well, suffer socially --- all of her friends dating, getting married, and there she is just staying fat. I ask again, where are her parents? They certainly have failed this girl.
Soon she will be 18 -- an adult -- and then she must do some deciding about her future.
Bariatric surgery is successful, but even though it will reduce her stomach to hold only an oz. those who have not had lots of counseling fail in the end--- the stomach just stretches to accomodate more food. Lots of surgeons won't even do the surgery unless the patient IS in counseling, IS on a diet, and IS exercising in a program.
If her parents are as fat as she is, then they all have a problem, hon, and you are pretty helpless in being able to help her... If she comes from a fat family, she is lost.
She complains to you because moving a huge body requires a lot of energy... and likely her joints already hurt. Her heart and her lungs and bones are exactly as big as yours are. For every pound of fat she is carrying, her body has provided one mile of veins, arteries and capillaries. Then, her heart has to pump the blood thru all of that. Lots of heavy people die of heart failure at an early age --- before age 30.
There are tv programs all the time of the Discovery Channel on fat people trying to beat their disease... the last one was the story of Jackie --- 637 lbs!!!!!! (she couldnt even get off of the bed, so I have no idea how the lady even went to the bathroom!) and a BMI of 103. Getting her in a car was a tragic scene.And when she looses weight, the skin will just hand in folds ,,,,,she'll need plastic surgery. I'm 5-7 and weigh 130. My BMI is normal, 20.4. (You can google BMI and find out how it works.)
The surgeon who operated on this lady said he never operated on anyone with a BMI (body mass index) of more than 100. Your friend doesn't have too many more years left before her skin, should she ever loose the weight, won't be hanging after weight loss...Skin can recoup this stretching for only so long, and the longer she is fat, the less likely it will shrink back to the way it could be.
I wish you luck with your friend, hon. Maybe the best you can do is remain her friend. she will need them.. anyone this heavy needs to be in counseling, and perhaps if you hammer away at that, she might listen to you---and when she is one year older, and out of HS, maybe she will seek the healp she so badly needs... Hon, she is mentally ill, at this time.. good luck, sweetie
Obesity is a "gianormous" problem, and just to ask her to stop eating is like asking a dog not to have 4 legs. ain't gonna happen. Obesity is THE major health problem in the US today.
And kids who are fat, shorten their lives. This generation that you are in will be the first where These fat children will live shorter lives than their parents. a first in the history of this country.
damn yo what kind of friend are you..
Its so obvious..
if you were fat would you not be embarassed to go outside?
Tell her parents to stop bringing food every night.
Get her to know YOUR friends better and the people around you play with..
One person makes fun of her she isnt going to come out for a month..
When you get so big it's hard to do anything. The weight makes it painful to do many activities. Just remember, if she was 115 lbs. she could be a knockout. The person that emerges when the weight is gone may not want to go anywhere with you either. I know from experience. I have transformed myself many times in this life.
i feel u i know what u mean maybe she dosent feel like doing anything because she feels tyred when people are obese they feel tyred and fatige most of the time just talk to her and tell her that u care about her and her health and maybe she can start out slowly like taking a walk every afternoon and at least eating healtier
good luck and cheers for being so faithfull to ur friends it realy talks about what kind of person u are :-)
Well, maybe she doesn't want to do physical activity outdoors because she's afraid of what some people might say (comments, stares, etc). Try buying her some work-out tapes and working out with her in her house. She'll probably be more willing to do it because she won't be worried about being criticized by strangers. About junk food, I don't know. Try offering her some fruit and vegetables once in awhile so she gets used to them. Don't tell her eating junk food is going to make her fatter because it will only upset her or make her more depressed. Just try to show her that eating healthy foods is good for you and tasty, too.
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